成功搭讪的十个技巧（上）


How To Chat Someone Up On The Train, Bus Or TubeRemember that person you saw on the tube that you thought was devastatingly attractive but didn't have the nerve to talk to?

如何你在公共场合看到特别心仪的ta ,你该怎么开口跟ta 说话而又不显得紧张呢？

With our help, you may never have to wonder if the one that got away was actually 'The One'. Follow these easy steps and you will have the confidence to chat someone up on public transport.

在我们的帮助下，如果你的他真的出现了，你再也不用担心让他溜走了。遵循以下这些步骤，在公共交通工具上，你就会有足够的自信搭讪啦！

You will need

a journey by public transport
someone you find attractive

nerves of steel (钢铁般的意志)

Step 2: Dealing with the Environment （随机应变）

Public transport is a tough environment. Nobody really wants to be there, and most people don't like any intrusion（入侵） into their privacy, preferring to focus on getting to work or getting home.

To chat someone up successfully on public transport you need to be quick-thinking （脑子反应快）and decisive without being aggressive. It's a difficult thing to pull off（拿下、搞定）， but just remember- it might be your soul mate （灵魂伴侣）that is escaping... never to be seen again.

Step 3: The check out（看看对方是否只身一人）

Wow! Check them out! You've seen someone you fancy, but you must act quickly as they may be getting off at the next stop. No time to lose....but wait- are they with someone? If so, does this person look like their other half（另一半）? Chatting up someone's other half is inadvisable, and may end in tears.

Step 4: Positioning（占据有利的位置）

No! They are on their own! All systems go!（万事俱备）

Your positioning is critical. If you're waiting on a tube platform, let them get on first. You can check out where they decide to sit/stand, and position yourself in their line of sight（让你自己出现在他们的视线里）. If they sit down, then sitting opposite is a good move. This is far better than being side by side as there is more chance of making eye contact. If the train is busy then you're likely to be standing. so get close, but not too close!

Step 5: Props（使用报纸，书籍杂志这样的小道具）

It's useful to have a newspaper, book or magazine in your hands, as it gives you something to pretend to look at （假装看）instead of awkwardly glancing around or staring off into space. If you have an mp3 player, be sure to take your headphones off（摘下耳机），or you will look inapproachable. If you already have headphones on when you spot your target, casually take them off. If they are wearing headphones, then starting a conversation is going to be very difficult and you may want to consider Plan B, which is outlined later in the film.

9、成功搭讪的十个技巧（下）

Step 6: Eye contact（眼神交流）

This is the best way to tell if someone finds you physically attractive. Begin by glancing up at him/her, catching their eye and holding it for a second or two（可是传说中的暗送秋波）. Then look away. Thirty seconds or so later, look up again, if he or she looks back again, this is a sign that they are interested. You may wish to repeat this move before you speak up as it is easy to misread these signals. If they don't look back at you the second time the chances are they're not interested, and you proceed at your peril.

TOP TIP- do not stare. It may make the other person feel nervous, confused or just plain scared.

Step 7: Smile （微笑）

When you catch their eye for the second time, you might feel that a smile is appropriate; it'll make you seem friendly and approachable.（亲切的、可接近的） If they smile back, it's likely that you're on to a winner. However, too much smiling can look odd, so be careful not to overdo it（别过火了）.

Step 8: Body language（使用好肢体语言）

Body language is a great give-away for how someone feels about you. After you've caught their eye and they have smiled, check out their body language. If they've angled themselves towards you this is a good sign.

Make sure your own body language is positive. Don't cross your arms, your legs, or hunch your shoulders; these are negative signals. Instead, angle your body toward them. You can also employ the technique of 'mirroring' where you subtly copy their body movements. If they shift positions in their seat, make a similar shift a few seconds later. If they brush their hair away from their face, do the same shortly afterwards. Done well, this can have the effect of making them feel in tune with you

Step 9: Speaking up（发起对话）

Now it's time to start a conversation. Most people don't have the nerve for this, but you must seize the day! You're on a timescale （时间有限啊）- they might have to get off at the next stop, so it's best to act quickly.

Reassure yourself that you've got nothing to lose; if you are knocked back you won't see them, or anyone else in the carriage again.

Try and ask a question that requires more than a 'yes' or 'no' answer. Don't ask "does this train stop at Victoria?" as they can simply say "yes", and end the conversation. Instead, ask an "open question" like "how do you get to Victoria?" as they will have to reply with a more detailed answer which will help you get a conversation going.

However, do expect them to look surprised that you've spoken up, and be prepared to repeat the question if they are startled. If they're genuinely interested in you they will be happy to start chatting. You'll be able to tell if they are not interested. If it is going badly, and you feel embarrassed, just get off at the next stop!

Plan B（备用计划）

If your nerves have got the better of you, or you're unsure if they find you attractive- there's another alternative. Write your name and phone number on a piece of paper, wait until they move to get off or your stop comes up- hand them the paper, make eye contact, smile and exit. It's quite simple. You leave it completely up to them.

If they don't call then forget about it, you won't see them again. If they do call, arrange somewhere to meet and make sure you tell a friend where you're going. Good luck!

How To Chat Someone Up On The Train, Bus Or TubeRemember that person you saw on the tube that you thought was devastatingly attractive but didn't have the nerve to talk to?

如何你在公共场合看到特别心仪的ta ,你该怎么开口跟ta 说话而又不显得紧张呢？

With our help, you may never have to wonder if the one that got away was actually 'The One'. Follow these easy steps and you will have the confidence to chat someone up on public transport.

在我们的帮助下，如果你的他真的出现了，你再也不用担心让他溜走了。遵循以下这些步骤，在公共交通工具上，你就会有足够的自信搭讪啦！

You will need a journey by public transport
someone you find attractive

nerves of steel (钢铁般的意志)

Step 2: Dealing with the Environment （随机应变）

Public transport is a tough environment. Nobody really wants to be there, and most people don't like any intrusion（入侵） into their privacy, preferring to focus on getting to work or getting home.

To chat someone up successfully on public transport you need to be quick-thinking （脑子反应快）and decisive without being aggressive. It's a difficult thing to pull off（拿下、搞定）， but just remember- it might be your soul mate （灵魂伴侣）that is escaping... never to be seen again.

Step 3: The check out（看看对方是否只身一人）

Wow! Check them out! You've seen someone you fancy, but you must act quickly as they may be getting off at the next stop. No time to lose....but wait- are they with someone? If so, does this person look like their other half（另一半）? Chatting up someone's other half is inadvisable, and may end in tears.

Step 4: Positioning（占据有利的位置）

No! They are on their own! All systems go!（万事俱备）

Your positioning is critical. If you're waiting on a tube platform, let them get on first. You can check out where they decide to sit/stand, and position yourself in their line of sight（让你自己出现在他们的视线里）. If they sit down, then sitting opposite is a good move. This is far better than being side by side as there is more chance of making eye contact. If the train is busy then you're likely to be standing. so get close, but not too close!

Step 5: Props（使用报纸，书籍杂志这样的小道具）

It's useful to have a newspaper, book or magazine in your hands, as it gives you something to pretend to look at （假装看）instead of awkwardly glancing around or staring off into space. If you have an mp3 player, be sure to take your headphones off（摘下耳机），or you will look inapproachable. If you already have headphones on when you spot your target, casually take them off. If they are wearing headphones, then starting a conversation is going to be very difficult and you may want to consider Plan B, which is outlined later in the film.

Step 6: Eye contact（眼神交流）

This is the best way to tell if someone finds you physically attractive. Begin by glancing up at him/her, catching their eye and holding it for a second or two（可是传说中的暗送秋波）. Then look away. Thirty seconds or so later, look up again, if he or she looks back again, this is a sign that they are interested. You may wish to repeat this move before you speak up as it is easy to misread these signals. If they don't look back at you the second time the chances are they're not interested, and you proceed at your peril.

TOP TIP- do not stare. It may make the other person feel nervous, confused or just plain scared.

Step 7: Smile （微笑）

When you catch their eye for the second time, you might feel that a smile is appropriate; it'll make you seem friendly and approachable.（亲切的、可接近的） If they smile back, it's likely that you're on to a winner. However, too much smiling can look odd, so be careful not to overdo it（别过火了）.

Step 8: Body language（使用好肢体语言）

Body language is a great give-away for how someone feels about you. After you've caught their eye and they have smiled, check out their body language. If they've angled themselves towards you this is a good sign.

Make sure your own body language is positive. Don't cross your arms, your legs, or hunch your shoulders; these are negative signals. Instead, angle your body toward them. You can also employ the technique of 'mirroring' where you subtly copy their body movements. If they shift positions in their seat, make a similar shift a few seconds later. If they brush their hair away from their face, do the same shortly afterwards. Done well, this can have the effect of making them feel in tune with you

Step 9: Speaking up（发起对话）

Now it's time to start a conversation. Most people don't have the nerve for this, but you must seize the day! You're on a timescale （时间有限啊）- they might have to get off at the next stop, so it's best to act quickly.

Reassure yourself that you've got nothing to lose; if you are knocked back you won't see them, or anyone else in the carriage again.

Try and ask a question that requires more than a 'yes' or 'no' answer. Don't ask "does this train stop at Victoria?" as they can simply say "yes", and end the conversation. Instead, ask an "open question" like "how do you get to Victoria?" as they will have to reply with a more detailed answer which will help you get a conversation going.

However, do expect them to look surprised that you've spoken up, and be prepared to repeat the question if they are startled. If they're genuinely interested in you they will be happy to start chatting. You'll be able to tell if they are not interested. If it is going badly, and you feel embarrassed, just get off at the next stop!

Plan B（备用计划）

If your nerves have got the better of you, or you're unsure if they find you attractive- there's another alternative. Write your name and phone number on a piece of paper, wait until they move to get off or your stop comes up- hand them the paper, make eye contact, smile and exit. It's quite simple. You leave it completely up to them.

If they don't call then forget about it, you won't see them again. If they do call, arrange somewhere to meet and make sure you tell a friend where you're going. Good luck!