我的人生我做主

　　还是我的人生我父母做主？

　　天空一声巨响，一道三月考题闪亮登场。近期，笔者发现有一道三月的考题是很多同学都比较感兴趣的话题，那就是关于应该让父母决定孩子的人生还是应该让孩子自主做选择。很多学生反馈这个话题的立场非常好抉择，百分之九十九点九的学生都选择应该让孩子自己做决定的立场，但是发现虽然非常坚定地选了这个立场，却写不满300字，能写的点又很难展开。所以笔者就为各位同学带来这篇独立写作的真题分析。希望同学们看完解析后都能茅塞顿开，下笔如有神，早日高中托福写作状元。

　　2021年3月10日托福独立写作题目：

　　Do you agree or disagree with the statement? Parents spend too much time trying to help determine the future of their children, children should be allowed to make their own choices.

　　题型类别：一般类题型

　　写作思路：思考孩子自己做决定的好处以及家长帮助孩子决定他们的未来的好处。让孩子自己做决定的好处有孩子能够变得更加独立，能够无悔青春。而家长帮孩子做决定的好处是避免误入歧途，能够保证孩子在一个教育氛围较好的环境中成长。笔者个人立场比较倾向于支持孩子应为自己的人生做决定。所以可以一个段落写有助于培养独立精神，另一个段落写能够人生无悔。第三个主体段写一个让步。

　　Body 1:

　　首先，孩子们自己做决定有利于磨练他们的独立性。这是因为他们可以意识到他们是应该对自己的决定负责的独立个体。当他们习惯于自己做决定后，他们将喜欢每件事情都自己做决定。这就能帮助他们提升独立自主性。而且有了这种比较独立的能力后，孩子不仅可以在学业中受益，还可以在未来的职业中获得切实的好处。因为一方面，独立的孩子更能自主学习，这将帮助他们取得更好的成绩。另一方面，一个独立的人更容易适应新的环境，尤其是新的工作环境。这意味着他们可能有更多的机会寻觅到一份心仪的工作并得到升职的机会。这是因为他们更有可能去大城市发展，而比较依赖父母相对不独立的孩子可能更愿意和父母呆在偏远的地区从而失去这些机会。因此，让孩子们自己决定走哪条路有助于培养独立的能力。

　　To begin with, children making decisions by themselves is conducive tohoning their independence. This is because they can realize that they are individuals who are supposed to be responsible for their own actions or behaviors. When they are acclimated to take very small decisions by themselves, they would start to act on their own so their independence is fostered. What is more, with independence, not only could they reap the benefit of their studies but also obtain tangible boons in future occupations. For one thing, independent school children tend to studyspontaneously, which facilitates them getting better grades. For another, an independent person is prone to easily adapt to a new environment, especially a new working condition. This means that they could have more opportunities to find an ideal job and get promoted on the grounds that they could go to big cities, whereas dependent adolescents might need to live with their parents inremote areas. Accordingly, allowing children to decide which path to take on their own is supportive of training independent competence.

　　Body 2:

　　此外，孩子自己做决定可以避免后悔。详细的来说是这样，很多孩子都有一些父母比较反对的爱好。比如一些孩子对音乐行业很感兴趣，希望以后能成为歌手。但是他们的父母希望他们成为工程师或老师。如果让父母帮孩子做了人生选择，这可能会让孩子在未来感到遗憾。到那时候，孩子可能会责怪父母，让他的人生充满了遗憾。结果导致他们的关系变得疏远。因此，孩子们自己做决定可以使他们对未来的人生无悔。

　　Furthermore, making choices by themselves empowers children to avoid regrets. To elaborate, there tend to be certain interests commonly held by all children, and to which their parents are opposed. To illustrate, it is not new that a large number of children are interested in the music industry and hope to become singers, yet their parents wish them to become engineers or teachers. This may become cause for regret in the future, with children beginning to blame their parents for determining their lives, thereby making their lives full ofcountless regrets. As a result, those children might become estranged from their parents. Hence, children taking decisions by themselves enables them to have no regrets in later life.

　　让步段:

　　诚然，父母决定孩子的人生可以避免一些风险。众所周知孩子在成长的过程中面临着许多诱惑如毒品，酒精和色情，而且一旦一些孩子接触到这些，他们很有可能无法抵抗这份诱惑。例如有些人可能会沉溺于毒品或因为潜在的巨额毒品贩卖利润而变成一个毒贩。在这种情况下，父母帮助孩子决定人生是可以一定程度上避免孩子接触到这些诱惑的可能性。但是，这些案例的发生仅占极小部分。因为大多数儿童通过正确的引导是可以分辨是非，并自主地做出正确的决定。

　　Admittedly, parents determining a child’s life could avoid certain risks. It is widely acknowledged that in the course of their growth teenagers confront plenty oftemptations such as drugs, alcohol, as well as pornography and some children cannot resist the lure to get involved in those fields. For instance, some might get addicted to drugs or plan to become drug dealers in the light of the potential for huge profits. In that case, their parents could help their children avert the likelihood of them accessing those temptations by determining their lives. Nevertheless, these cases only account for a small proportion of children going astray, as most children coulddifferentiate right from wrong and come to the right decision by themselves.

参考词汇：

　　Be conducive to 有益于

　　Hone v.磨练

　　Be acclimated to 适应于/习惯于

　　Reap the benefit of 获取…利益

　　Tangible boons 实实在在的好处

　　Spontaneously adv 自发地

　　Be prone to 倾向于

　　Remote areas 偏远地区

　　Be supportive of 有益于

　　Empower sb to do 使某人做…

　　Countless regrets 数不尽的悔憾

　　Become estranged from 变得疏远

　　Temptation n.诱惑

　　Resist the lure 抵抗诱惑

　　Drug dealer毒贩

　　Go astray 误入歧途

　　Differentiate right from wrong 明辨是非

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