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33岁之后,人将不会再那么自私了,不会再是那个总以自我为中心的人,什么事情除了我还是我。研究说,33岁就是人们失去“全自我”态度的时候。到那时候,年轻时候的自我中心观念减弱,他们开始经常顾虑别人的感受。更多的关注周围的人,更愿意做好事了。
It’s no longer ‘me, me ,me’: selfish outlook vanished when we turn 33
When you're fed up with self-obsessed twenty-somethings, try to remember that they'll be 33 one day. For that's the age when they lose the 'all about me' attitude, research suggests.
By then, youthful selfishness subsides and people begin to consider others' feelings more often, researchers say.
When we reach 33, we are also more likely to make an effort with parents and grandparents and take a positive attitude towards ending feuds with family or friends.
The older we get, the more selfless we are in almost all areas of life—with the exception of volunteering in the community, the report suggests.
Most people agree that having children is the turning point in changing our attitudes towards other people. This is when we apparently find ourselves worrying more about others and doing things for them, such as checking how they are getting home, offering to help with childcare and doing airport runs.
And we are more likely to keep an eye out for neighbours, as well as give up seats to elderly people on public transport. We will probably also be more involved in the community and willing to donate money to good causes.
Those under 33 are most likely to admit to being very selfish – with 40 per cent saying that they put themselves first in all circumstances. However, 40 per cent of this age group regularly volunteer for charity or their community – higher than any other age group.
The age at which we are most selfish is our teenage years, researchers found – with people saying that just growing up made them more likely to consider others.
Others cite meeting their partner or buying a house as the point at which they started being more compassionate and putting others first.
Researchers at Make-A-Wish Foundation UK, a charity which grants wishes to youngsters fighting a life-threatening illness, came to their conclusion after studying the attitudes of 2,000 adults aged from 20 to 60. Spokesman Emma Cronin said: 'It's never too early to put other people before yourself.'