As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.
玛丽亚-罗宾森说过：“没有人可以回到过去重新开始，但每一个人都可以从现在开始，创造全新的未来。” 但是在你开始转变之前，必须停止做那些阻碍你前行的事情。
Here are some ideas to get you started:
1.Take care of yourself.
照顾好自己。
Your relationship with yourself is the closest and most important relationship you will ever have. If you don’t take good care of yourself, then you can’t take good care of others either; which is why taking care of yourself is the best selfish thing you can  do.
你和自己最亲近，是你所有关系中的重心。如果照顾不好自己，也就谈不上照顾好别人，这就是为什么说照顾好自己是你能做的的利己之事。
2.Do what you know is right, for YOU.
为了自己，去做自己认为正确的事情。
Don’t be scared to walk alone, and don’t be scared to like it. Don’t let anyone’s ignorance, drama, or negativity stop you from being the best you can be. Keep doing what you know in your heart is right, for you. Because when you are totally at peace within yourself, nothing can shake you.
不要害怕独行，不要因喜欢独行而害怕。不要让任何人的无知、恶搞或消极成为你达到的障碍。为了自己，坚持做你内心深处认为正确的事情。因为当你内心完全处于平和状态时，没有什么能让你动摇。
3.Adjust your goals and dreams as life changes.
随时调整目标与梦想来适应生活。
A great deal of pain in life comes from having a specific dream that you’ve fallen in love with, and when it doesn’t work out exactly as planned, you become angry that you now have to pursue a different path. If you want to tame your inner demons and make the most of life, you must not become rigidly attached to just one specific dream, and remain open to there being an even better, equally as happy path ahead. Life is unpredictable, but it provides plenty of opportunities to make dreams come true. Just don’t forget that sometimes taking a positive step forward requires you to slightly adjust your dreams, or plan new ones – it’s OK to change your mind or have more than one dream.
生活中的很多痛苦来自于拥有一个明确的、让你无法自拔的梦想，当梦想不能如期实现时，你会感到气恼，不得不再去寻求另一种途径以期实现梦想。如果想让自己心平气和地过好每，你不能固守一个特定的梦想，要向更美好的梦想敞开胸怀，正可谓幸福之路就在脚下。生活不可预知，但它却提供各种机遇，使你梦想成真。别忘记，有时对梦想略做些调整或构思一些新梦想，是向前迈出积极一步的必要条件——改变想法或拥有不只一个梦想不是件坏事情。
4.Stop trying to be someone you’re not.
不要努力成为别人
One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
在一个总想把你变成他人的世界中，做好自己是人生的一大挑战。总是有人比你可爱、比你聪明、比你年轻。但是他们都不是你。不要去改变来让大家去喜欢你。做好你自己，会有对的人爱上真正的你。
5.Stop trying to compete against everyone else.
不要和别人竞争。
Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
不要担心别人做得比你好。集中精力，每天打破自己的记录。成功只是你和你自己之间的战争。
6.Show everyone your love and kindness.
向大家表示你的友爱和友善。
If you are reserving your love only for those who you have decided are worthy of it – all strangers excluded – it may come as a surprise to learn that this is not love at all, it is called judgment. Judgment is selective, love is all embracing. Just as the sunlight and the wind do not discriminate, true love does not make any such distinctions either. Love and kindness is a way of living. Where there is love, there is no judgment. Where there is judgment, there is no love.
如果你只把爱留给那些你认为值得去爱的人，把所有陌生人被拒之门外，你可能会惊奇地发现，这根本不是爱，而是评判。评判是选择，爱是拥抱。真爱如阳光和风一样没有偏颇。爱与友善是一种生活方式，评判与爱不能共存。
7.Fight through your failures.
不服输。
When you are feeling down or dealing with failure, don’t be ashamed. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. You are going through a difficult time, and you are still pushing forward. That’s something to be proud of – that you are fighting through it and slowly rising above it. Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
当你感到沮丧或面对失败时，不要感到羞愧。没有什么好羞愧的。你正在经历艰辛，你仍在前行。这是值得你骄傲的——你在努力战胜失败，一步步走出困境。让大家知道，今天的你比昨天更坚强，而且会越来越坚强。
8.Stop berating yourself for old mistakes.
不要因为过去的错误而自责。
No matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
无论事情错得有多么离谱，有一点可以肯定：错误能帮助我们找到正确的人和事。我们都会犯错、遇到困难，甚至后悔过去的事情。但生活中发生的每件事情都会为还没来到的那一刻做准备。
9.Stop running from your problems.
不要逃避问题
Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
要面对它们。但是，这并不容易，我们没法立刻解决问题。在遇到问题时，我们会本能地心烦意乱、悲伤、痛苦、踌躇、情绪低落。 因为这就是生活的全部意义——随着时间的推移，去面对问题，然后去学习、适应，从而解决问题。通过这样的方式，生活把我们塑造成了现在的样子。
10.Stop thinking you’re not ready.
不要总是觉得自己还没有准备好
Nobody ever feels a hundred percent ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
当机遇降临时，没有人会a hundred percent完全准备好。因为生活中大部分的机遇会使我们脱离习惯的舒适区，这也就意味着，一切在开始时我们不会感到很自在。

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